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*Life as a Grandma*
read on......Not a bed of roses,really .....
.....and absolutely not as we see it in
movies and television series. That perfect world does not excist in the real world. There is nothing we can do to prepare us for the new life with children. But it is worth every single moment, no matter what. Sleepless nights with crying babies or sick babies. Angry 3-year olds wanting to do everything their way. And then the 6-year old with arms and legs too long, stumbeling around. Hehe,no one told us about that. Itīs a miracle our firstborns survive. But they do, as we learn how to take care of them ;-) For every child we have after the first,we get more and more confident that we will stay on top of the situation. That is, until they become teenagers and turns into alians just like that. Well,they do grow up and before you know it, itīs time for the first grandchild. Canīt say I was prepared for that either 
There are no words that can describe the feelings inside you, holding a grandchild for the first time. I was blessed to be able to be there,when they were born and that was something I will never forget. To be able to share that moment with my daughters and their partners. I suppose the reason for wanting to have me there, was that after giving birth to 7 children, I was considering being an expert, along with the midwifes :-) I am very grateful for having these special moments whatever the reason was. To be a grandma is not only to be there for the grandkids, it is also very much about being there for the new parents. However without interfering too much. They must do their own misstakes just as we did 
They wouldnīt want to listen anyway and if we canīt be quiet there is a big chance we will just cause problems. My mother was like that, she just had to tell me all the time. I had never done well enough and she made me feel useless. It was a pain everytime she came to visit. I could have spent hours cleaning up my home to make it shine, but she always found one thing or spot I had missed and went on and on over that, all the time. Well, today she is a very nice old lady and I love her very much,but all those years when my kids were small, she was tuff to handle 
But you know *Everything happens for the good*. I turned into a different mum and grandma thankīs to that. Maybe a little too nice, who knows (grin) This is important however. I never say to my daughters how to clean up, how to cook or whatever. I never let them know when I think there is something they did wrong.Hm, well I try to be quiet and succeed mostly. 
I never go behind their backs, cleaning up in their homes. But if asked I can help with whatever they need to have done. That is ok and we are friends, no typical mother - daughter situation, like the one I had with my mother. So I must say my life as a Grandma is much nicer then my life as a young mother with many small children, used to be. I do enjoy every moment I get with my *next generation*
Just to give you more to read I will send you off to a Mpam Niche site at mgrcentral.com A few months ago I wrote an article called *The next generation*. You can find it if you do a search at http://mgrcentral.com Oh well, I think you had enough of Grandma Maggie thoughts for this time,but remember with grandchildren you are a rich person even if you are poor. They will for sure bring so much joy and happiness into your life! Grandma Maggie A Grandma Maggie Page - 2005
Margareta Hultgren /Grandma Maggie Myrtuvevagen 63 46167 Trollhattan,Sweden Homepage http://grandmamaggie.com/ Blog - Facts from Grandma Maggie http://grandmamaggiefacts.blogspot.com/ |